Me Time: Everyday Essentials

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After discussing the two extreme’s of “me time”, and what an effective time of solitude needs, I would like to discuss some everyday essentials for taking care of YOU.

It is very common for mom’s to naturally let themselves go as they care for their children. No doubt our hearts are in the right place! However, we need to caution ourselves to think through what we’re really sacrificing. Are we putting forth our best efforts by sacrificing our own, simple needs?

I used to [and sometimes still struggle] with caring for my basic needs without feeling guilty simply because what I was doing focused on me. I needed to learn that it’s not selfish to take care of myself! God wants us to care for ourselves (1 Cor. 6:19). If he doesn’t want us abusing ourselves, would he want us neglecting ourselves?  Some may vary on what they consider “needs”. So let’s begin with the basics.

  1. A regular shower. Let’s face it, when you have kids, a shower tends to become a luxury. Sometimes we can’t squeeze it in when we’d like. I’ve come to find that I feel my best when I’ve showered [go figure]. This is something we need to make time for. I would even go so far as to say to make time for it daily. Some like this commodity every other day, but there are more benefits than cleanliness alone.
  2. Get fully dressedFlylady makes an excellent point to why she highly suggests “getting dressed to shoes“. It is motivating–especially the shoes part. She highly recommends shoes that lace up because they are harder to take off and are snug on your feet. When I am wearing my shoes, I know I am in “work mode”. At the end of the night, when my shoes come off, [typically after the children are in bed], I instantly relax. If you don’t like to wear shoes in the house, buy a pair that are for the house only. Trust me on this. :)
  3. Style your hair and face. When you feel your best, you’ll do your best. Simple as that. You don’t have to wear make up. A simple wash will keep you feeling fresh. Brushing your teeth counts as well. Don’t feel guilty for taking 5-10 minutes to blow dry your hair if that’s how it looks best. Take care of yourself.
  4. Get with God daily. This is the most important need that we have. We need His strength, wisdom, and direction every single day. We cannot get that if we are not connecting with Him, through prayer and His word. We tend to hear this over and over again. There’s a reason. Make it a priority to get with God daily.
  5. Exercise. Yet another dreadful task we never want to take the time for. This one may require a bit more selflessness if you don’t like to exercise [like me…ahem]. A simple walk is sufficient. Something to get your blood moving and energy up a bit. It doesn’t have to be long; 5-15 minutes. If you can’t get out of the house, consider buying a workout DVD. You’d be amazed at what exercise can do for your energy and mentality.
  6. Eat!  I forgot to put in to eat! As a mother, I often forget this very important necessity! Take the time to eat.

These are simple, daily necessities that every mother needs. There is no reason we should feel guilty for doing these things. We need to take care of ourselves so that we can best care for others.


What do you need to do that you are not doing because of guilt?


  1. I have to say – exercise is the one idea listed that CONSISTENTLY eludes me! I live in the desert and my husband isn’t comfortable with me going out by myself, so, even though I most frequently hear the benefits of walking/running – I most likely can’t do that. Also, it’s just hot so many months out of the year… And yet, I totally feel convicted that I’m making excuses…
    We have a nice park I could take the kids to in the cooler months (although they’d grumble after we went a few times). We have an XBOX and a rock wall and a trampoline. I can do wall push-ups and plank. I seriously need some motivation, I guess!!! Any ideas?

    • Christin says:

      I agree. I do not love exercise. Work something that is a part of normal, every day life. Yard work is a great workout! Mopping floors. Scrubbing bath tubs. Doing that regularly will keep your house sparkling and your arms tone! ;)

      Sometimes just doing the first workout is enough to convince you to do it again. The difference in the way you feel and how energetic you’ll be is amazing!

  2. God bless you my dear
    Always your notes leaves me thinking … I think the truth, exercise is something that costs a lot lol trust me that I will be integrating into my daily routine …
    Hugs from Chile!

  3. I second the exercise, I know I need to, but it stresses me out even more to try and get out of the house in the morning to go walking. I need to get into a better habit of doing it though. I am starting on a new morning routine that I am hoping will help!

    I think something else I would add to this list is sleep! I tend to be a night owl, so I will leave all the tasks I have to get done to the evening after she goes to bed. Then I end up staying up way too late which effects my mood the next day. This is something I am trying to work on as well!

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